"The Best Advice I Ever Received" from August 2011 Ebony magazine:
"My best advice was to learn how to listen. Listen to each other, to yourself, to your heart, to those who agree with you and, most important, listen to the people you most want to shut up. Chances are, they have something to say that you need to hear. Listen before responding. Sometimes you'll learn to just be quiet. Maybe what they say is true. Maybe it's not. Maybe it's just a perspective that differs from your own.
You might learn something. If you're really listening, you will. Even if it's just about yourself, and that you're a good listener (emphasis added). When you listen, you boost the overall amount of civility in the world, and God knows we need more of that! So listen up."