I ran across this headline today on MSNBC: Oprah says she, best friend Gayle are not gay. In the article, taken from an interview between Oprah and Gayle in the August issue of "O" magazine, Oprah addresses the rumors that she and Gayle are more than friends.
“I understand why people think we’re gay,” she says. “There isn’t a definition in our culture for this kind of bond between women. So I get why people have to label it — how can you be this close without it being sexual?”
First of all, I was surprised that she even dignified the rumors with a response. I didn't realize that it was that big of a deal -- kinda like when Tyra felt the need to have a whole show on whether her boobs were real -- it's just not that crucial, boo. But anywhoo, apparently in both instances inquiring minds wanted to know. Oprah and Gayle's friendship never struck me as odd. Lots of women, including black women, have extremely close friendships, right? What is so different about their "bond" that makes it seem gay? And duh, of course you can be close without it being sexual. *rolling eyes* Who are these people O is dealing with?
The only person I ever dealt with who called me and my best friend at the time gay was a crazy guy. Like for real, shoulda been on meds. We had broken up (because of his craziness) but he still wanted to borrow my car. (Long story. Don't ask.) Well, my friend had my car, so he couldn't use it, and he went off. "I knew you was gay! You and that b*tch gay! That's why you broke up with me." Oooookay. Gotta be gay to not want his crazy tail. But besides him, I don't think my friendships have ever been questioned for more than what they are.
...Although Quel and I have had some "gay" moments:
*Went to eat pizza and she tried to sit on the same side of the booth as me. "If you don't getcho ass over to the other side of this table," I uttered through closed teeth. "What?!" She just wanted to see the TV or view or something. "Is that gay?" "Yes!" I answered, with an understood "hell" in front of it.
*Same day as pizza booth incident, we went to the spot for her tattoo and were told there would be an hour wait. So we walked around and quickly figured out that the area was the gay/lesbian part of town. One of us asked, "Are we couple?" To which the other answered, "Yes, I believe we are." At which point, we decided we didn't want to be a (perceived) couple, and hopped in the car and went to Walgreens to pass the time.
Have you and one of your girlfriends (or guy friends for all my fellas) ever been called gay? If so, did you address it like Oprah or just tell them to mind their business?